Sometimes, all I can do is shake my head. All around me I see people purposefully hurting other people for their own gain and satisfaction. In looking around, I tend to barely see the "In the middle of the road" clan that just want to be happy and quietly live while voicing their concerns, opinions and feelings once in awhile. On either side of that, I see a large amount of "it's cool to be an ass" people and "Love and light and butterflies and people posing to be amazing and almighty".
On the ass side, they are cruelly spreading lies and rumors so that they will feel as if they are on top. They are purposefully trying to damage others, and don't have a conscious about it. That is not only disgusting, it is scary. This is me speaking as an observer AND one who has been on the receiving end of these passive aggressive bullies.
Then there are the people (and really, you can just tell, some can't but yuck, usually you can just tell) that spew kindness and love through their mouth while they are stabbing the people that look up to them and adore them, in the back. They have very little self confidence so they connive and manipulate, smiling while people are suffering, yet try to remain "holier than thou" for the public view. This I have also experienced, on the watching, and the receiving end for a relationship as well.
I am not perfect, no one is (no really, YOU aren't either, I know it's tough when you want to control everything but you are not perfect) and slinging poo really is very childish and immature. " have others (their minions) turn away from me as well. Not cool and rather hurtful I might add.
I see that more and more, and it gives groups of certain individuals a very bad name. I'm very glad I am not associated with that filth any longer, and that truly is what it is, filth. I also know that people are hurting over broken/lost relationships because of people like this. Here is where I say, learn to move on. Learn to make yourself happy. If someone has used and abused you (while you weren't paying attention OR it happened so quickly you didn't realize what was going on) .. forgive yourself for allowing it, and remove them from your life.
Send a small note of "thanks" to those you love, and who help you to dust yourself off, and appreciate them in your life. Do not let people take advantage of you (and they will). Teach yourself (and learn) how to find those in the middle, the true people, the ones that are just like you, tired of the BS.
Small vent, but, overall, this very second in time, I am extremely happy and excited, my life is wonderful and I dont' have to lie about it to "play the part" for society. I smile, I laugh, I share, and I love.